“How do I know if I’m being sexist?”

Fun fact I learned while researching for this article: There are more CEOs of large U.S. companies who are named David (4.5%) than there are CEOs who are women (4.1%).

So, to finally arrive at the original question of “how do I know if I am being sexist?”

Well, you may not ever know for sure. It is incredibly difficult to change or control unconscious biases.

  • Always asking or assuming that the woman in a meeting will take notes
  • Allowing women colleagues to plan, set up, provide, and serve food at company events, and then also clean up after everyone
  • Interrupting or talking over women in meetings, or repeating their ideas as if they are your own and taking credit
  • Not listening to or being held accountable for listening to female managers
  • Constantly using sports metaphors with the assumption that everyone gets it (this is exclusionary to everyone who isn’t a sports fan)
  • Assuming that a woman’s anger is irrational or due to “the time of the month”
  • Telling a woman she has the wrong tone or is being emotional, when in all honesty if a man behaved that way he would be considered assertive, clever, funny, or ambitious
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Kara J

Kara J


Writing evidence-based, thought-provoking content to spread knowledge and ideas that help people. I hold an MS I/O Psychology and BA Philosophy.